In recent days, the conflict between Iran and Israel has dominated the media and conversations. Even if children don’t fully understand the politics or history, they absorb the tension from adults, news, and online sources. This article helps parents explain war to children in an age-appropriate and emotionally safe way.

• Why Talking About War Matters
• How to Talk to Children Around Age 5
• How to Talk to Children Over Age 10
• Parenting Tips to Prevent Anxiety
• Media Habits: What Parents Should Avoid
• When to Seek Professional Support

Why Talking About War Matters

Children are sensitive to fear, even if they don’t understand the details. Without proper explanation, they fill the gaps with imagination—often worse than reality. Talking about war calmly and honestly helps reduce anxiety and build resilience. UNICEF recommends offering age-appropriate, reassuring answers to maintain emotional safety.

How to Talk to Children Around Age 5

• Use simple, concrete words. Example: “Some countries are fighting. But many people are trying to make things better. You are safe here.”
• Answer only what they ask—don’t overwhelm them with detail.
• Let them express through play, drawing, or storytelling.
• Limit their access to TV and adult conversations.
• Offer hugs, presence, and routine—they bring safety.

How to Talk to Children Over Age 10

• Have open conversations. Let them ask and reflect.
• Encourage critical thinking. Ask: “Why do you think wars happen?”
• Offer multiple perspectives, avoiding blame or hate speech.
• Share stories of peacebuilding, aid, and humanity.
• Help them channel feelings into writing, music, or volunteering.

Parenting Tips to Prevent Anxiety at Home

• Keep daily routines (meals, play, bedtime) consistent.
• Engage in calming activities: nature walks, breathing, creative play.
• Encourage children to ask questions anytime—no shame, no fear.
• Don’t hide emotions, but model calm behavior.
• Avoid using war-related threats as discipline (“If you don’t eat, the war will get worse”).

Media Habits: What Parents Should Avoid

Excessive news consumption increases your anxiety—and your children notice. Consider these healthy alternatives:

• Read news articles instead of watching disturbing videos.
• Use headphones or low volume when watching updates.
• Avoid news during meals or bedtime hours.
• Mute or turn off notifications from news apps.
• Balance media with relaxing habits: music, tea, stretching, prayer.

📚 Source: Harvard Health: Too Much News Can Stress You Out

When to Seek Professional Support

If your child shows signs like withdrawal, sleep trouble, aggression, or panic, it may be time to ask for help. Signs of trauma should not be ignored.

• Medadhaaye Rangi offers in-home play therapy and parenting guidance in Tehran.
• Book online or in-person sessions with our child psychologists and occupational therapists.

Final Thought

You don’t need to explain everything. Just be present, honest, and kind. Your calmness is the greatest shield you can offer your child.